I'm seeing a growing trend on social media and internet-based, closed discussion groups. There seems to be a push for inclusivity and open discussion, yet if you don't veil your comments in what is seen as being politically correct, then expect to be attacked by the lynch mob.

It doesn't matter if you are being polite and careful about your wording. If you don't say things exactly how the vocal few wants you to say them, then you're not welcome.

Public social media is a hot spot for this, because you might also be attacked by the trolls who are deliberately trying to get a reaction out of you. But when you see the policing of language and unfiltered thoughts on private community forums too, what might be seen as a good thing can quickly become a bad thing.

There is a difference between hate speech and innocent comments that can be interpreted multiple ways. It's perfectly valid to have a random comment challenged, seeking clarification, because random comments with no context can be seen as negative and hateful. But when a clarification is given, there have been times when the lynch mob goes in for the kill, accusing people of things that they are not.

Situations quickly escalate, and emotions rage out of control. How we navigate this minefield is a measure of our character.

Most of the time, I just ignore the comments attacking me, particularly if they are on public social media. But when the comments come in via an avenue that is meant to be supportive and inclusive (and private)…

At that point, we are often forced into a situation where we are silenced (and left with no way to express ourselves) or ostracized (and still left with no way to express ourselves). And all because the vocal few don't like what we have to say.

In today's post, I want to show you how an innocent comment can quickly get out of control, leaving us with little choice but to become silent.